Who do you look to for advice? How do you go about choosing a mentor?
Many arguments exist in regards to what credentials a mentor should hold. Some believe all that is needed to be a mentor is a certain level of post-secondary education. Others believe education without a certain level of experience is moot. This especially applies to mentors who seek a mentor.
When climbing the life ladder, it is common for people to feel like only someone who is higher up on the ladder offers worthy advice. Meaning, they must have a higher education and/or be more established in life then the one seeking a mentor/advice. Seems pretty cut and dry, right?
The problem with this is, life is not always cut and dry. Nor is individuality!
So, what might some more significant factors be when choosing a mentor?
Like many other choices in life, choosing a mentor is individual specific – also the primary factor. Specific needs, which includes reason for a mentor, is a secondary factor.
I will use myself as an example.
I, as a mentor myself, was in search of someone who could mentor me. It is not my style to just Google mentors, interview with them, and pick one. I do not feel I can learn all that I need to know solely from a consultation/interview. Instead, I engaged with and observed proclaimed leaders, mentors, small business owners, coaches, aspiring leaders, etc. NOTE: I’m a very patient person who believes in things happening at the right time.
What was I looking for?
I observed things like; behavior patterns, consistency, temperament, honesty, strategy, methodology, maturity, emotional intellect, belief system, and more. For me, these are more significant factors. I needed to see if their normal behavior matched what they would/could tell me during a consultation/interview. Additionally, I couldn’t allow someone who may be closed to any way other than their own to mentor me. Now, this is not to say that they should automatically be accepting and/or in agreement with my way.
In order to maximize on the benefits of a mentor you must openly receive them (mesh). What benefit can you find from a mentor whose personality traits make your gut churn?
That brings me to my mentor, Ryan Chabara!
I did not have to do an extreme amount of observation to know that he was the one. This in itself says a lot!
He offers, in my opinion, the most pertinent variable related to growth – perspective! Now, you may be thinking, anybody can offer their perspective. You’re exactly right – but what perspective will they offer? Ryan is similar to myself (important). He has a true desire to assist people on their journey! Not that uncommon, right? More importantly, he has a sincere no judgment, there is no “one size fits all” personality and belief system. When you combine his desire to assist, his sincerity, and belief system you get something/someone amazing. What better mentor to have then someone with these characteristics. This is a combination for success.
If you’re choosing between a mentor that feels like they already have the answers for any given scenario and a mentor who doesn’t offer answers, per se, rather methodology that aides in answering your own questions, which would you prefer? Better yet, which will be most beneficial?
You already know my answer, I chose Ryan! But don’t take my word for it, see for yourself.
You can connect with Ryan Charaba via his website or on Facebook where he has an amazing group titled “First Wakeups” https://www.facebook.com/groups/FirstWakeupsInnerCirlce/
(Disclaimer: If you are inside of a box, drank the water, follow the status quo, etc. this may not make sense)